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Lucky Bitches

Saturday, June 9th, 2012

lucky bitch

Yeah, that would be me. And now, you too.

See, I’ve been doing a whole lot of business and personal development as of late. I (gasp / shock / horror) have taken on work outside of acting – working as a kickass modern Joanie as an office manager for a kickass company. Why? Because, in part, weddings are fucking expensive and I deserve to have the wedding of my dreams. Which, btw, I now have only 363 days to plan. Oh my god you guys!

Obligatory bridezilla gushing aside… no, really. I’ve discovered some awesome resources for acting/life-in-general coaching, and I think you should check these folks out. In no particular order, they are:
-The Lucky Bitch herself – Denise Duffield-Thomas
-Marie Forleo – quirky and passionate career coaching
-Dallas Travers – the actor’s advocate, she’s sincere and spot-on
-The Savvy Actor – marketing tips designed specifically for actors
-Smart Girls Productions – especially US-focused tips for actors
- Gwyn – The Actor’s Market

There’s a few more but these ones really stuck out.

One concept that’s really stuck with me is the idea of an upper limit problem – that is, things have suddenly been so awesome (like way more than ever before) and all of a sudden some really shitty things have started/been happening. You know, things like getting arrested for telling the truth about surviving an abusive ex and domestic violence, and having a bunch of “friends” decide to turn on me and support the abuser. A taxi driver rear-ending me and trying to blame me for it. Or, like what happened yesterday, this web TV show I was supposed to do falling through at the last second because once my first guest and I had arrived to film, the creep-o decided that he was “cancelling our appointment”. Which, btw, he didn’t even have the courage to say to my face. He’s also trying to get out of paying me for the prep work and the shoot date, which I think is bullshit and I won’t stand for. Apparently he has no idea of my lucky streak with winning court cases.

Yes, it’s all kind of shitty, but I’m quite certain that all this is happening because I have gotten a lot more firm about not accepting assholes into my life. That includes asshole cops, asshole men, asshole “friends”, asshole “business associates”, and so forth.

With the creepo from RemicTV, Frank Corbin, I made the mistake of giving him the benefit of the doubt when he “joked” about hiring my services sexually. The fact that he was looking for edgy shows for his web TV station and I had proposed one regarding sex and sexuality does not excuse his behaviour. Hindsight may be 20/20, but I am making everyone aware of his actions and holding him accountable for his inappropriate and unprofessional behaviour, both toward the way he spoke to me and the deciding to cancel the shoot when I was already there.

All that aside. YES, I am always looking for new opportunities and people to work with, and YES I will always 110% be willing to give to anyone who needs my help, but from here on in I am holding EVERYONE accountable for their actions. You tell me you’re doing something, I expect that it will get done. I expect the same thing of myself. If I do work for you, you are sure as fuck paying me for my time and talents in whatever way we agree upon. I am not an actor because I want to work for free for the rest of my life. You wouldn’t work retail or restaurant or pick up garbage for free, why should it be any different in the arts? I give only as good as I get from here on in.

There’s some exciting biz dev news coming up, but I’ll share that when I can. In the meantime, bring it on, universe. I’m just gonna keep smashing through the challenges you send my way and coming out on top.

Theatre FTW.

Wednesday, June 6th, 2012

Dahlia

Oh hi there. So, in the past three weeks, I’ve had the distinct pleasure of working with Sky Gilbert, Volcano Theatre, and a brand new awesome group of people known The Mission Business, on a fun little project called Zed.TO. So, life has been awesome, long story short.

With Sky, I was working on a show called Kitchen Party Nervous Breakdown Reality TV Show – it was a fantastic opportunity to create with other queer theatre artists. One of the things I loved most is that it made me more aware of the dualities that exist in the performing world for non-straight artists: while I still often get pereceived as heteronormative, in truth I am anything but, and I still often am far more drawn to the ‘quirky’ characters rather than the normal ones. Which, really, explains a lot. (If anything, I have had more unique sexual experiences than most people I know – but more on that in a second.)

The Volcano piece was created through Informing Content, an awesome two-day seminar about site-specific theatre, location/dislocation, Lawrence Welk, zombies, democracy, gypsies, and laying prostrate on the floor. It was intense in ways I didn’t expect (mostly, a lot more cerebral than most of my theatre work as of late) but I am very proud of the outcome. I think my problem was that I had too many ideas, was frustrated that I was unfocused, and was frustrated that I didn’t get to use a lot of my ideas… but I don’t think it could’ve come out better if it had been planned. We basically spent the first day brainstorming, the second morning choreographing, and the afternoon/evening rehearsing and performing. People were overwhelmed, I heard some amazing life histories, and I am now suffering serious glitter withdrawl. It was exactly what I needed.

Zed is my current big project, and is pretty much the best ‘theatre’ piece I have ever worked on. I always feel a bit disloyal to old projects when I fall in love with something new, but it’s seriously – in terms of scope, people, plot – something I am seriously smitten with. We have a NXNE, a Fringe, and a Nuit Blanche event… plus one more after that. I found the audition originally by accident through a friend’s FB post, and in an event of amazing synchronicity this is pretty much everything I could’ve hoped for. I have the best fucking sandbox ever to play in, and all of you had better come out to the Fringe event at least one night to experience the event at least one of the ways you might see it. I’m being a little cryptic here, admittedly… your best bet is to check out ByoLogyc’s VIP site, and tell them a lady named Dahlia Joss that I sent you.

Lastly, I’ve got MORE good news – I am piloting a show called SexYOUality on Remic.TV. Basically, it’s the show with no taboos, and we’ll be talking about everything to do with sex and sexuality with an array of amazing guests. I film my first few episodes tomorrow, so stay tuned for more info on airtimes soon!

Here’s to summer!

Working Girls!

Thursday, April 26th, 2012

(Not THAT kind of working girl, mind you. And than you to Krissy Myers for the above photo of me)

I’ve been thinking more and more about acting as a business, and my life in general as a business. See, this has come about in several ways and through several people, which I suspect is the universe’s way of smacking me over the head and saying “time to evolve”. Recently I took on some work outside of just performing and creating – I’m now working for Fresh Collective as their office manager/Girl Friday. Aside from working for a great, POSITIVE company with a great product and being afforded some very lucky opportunities for serious personal development, my boss Laura-Jean runs a great Tumblr blog called Becoming a CEO. As another creative professional, I find that her blogs resonate a lot with me and my journey, especially one recent post about internal vs external. I think a lot about where I want things to go, and don’t always take the steps I need to make that happen.

See, I am great at Getting Stuff Done for other people and as long as I’m engaged and occupied mentally, I’m pretty happy and achieving great flow. It’s when I don’t feel challenged and engaged that I find ways to procrastinate – and especially in my own personal life stuff (or when I’m afraid of a new challenge) – I find that I will self-sabotage or neglect the work. If I’m involved in a project where other people are relying on me but I’m not feeling engaged, I tend to slowly start slacking off, and if it’s something for me/my career but I have fears/doubts… well, those dishes need doing and I should read this book and… it goes on and on.

Another inspirational lady in my life as of late is my dear friend and fellow actor Miroki Tong. Much like me, Miroki has a lot of passions and interests – I know I’ve fallen into the trap many times of doing more than I can take on, like having five parties in a night to go to or having acting work plus housework plus personal stuff plus commitments to other people plus fun social pursuits. In one of the recent development books I’ve read, they talked about how quitting is not always a bad thing – a lot of smart people know how and when to quit and it can actually work to your advantage. Miroki’s recent post about “saying goodbye to a Jacques of Trades” also resonated with me because for awhile I was trying to build several businesses in tandem. I am slowly learning how to quit everything that is bad/dead end for me – such as not doing photography as business, not wasting time and energy on people who are not supportive in my life, not eating foods that are going to cause me to feel miserable… the list goes on and on. I’m making it my mission this year to quit as much as possible when I know things aren’t benefitting me any and they are sucking up my time that could be better spent elsewhere.

Lastly, a talented lady musician I know, Late July, aka Nicole Simone posted recently about her experiences with “marketing” her music, rather than just making music. I’m torn on this – it seems like you need to market the shit out of yourself these days if you’re to get “anywhere” at all, but I hate the thought of making art purely for profit rather than for what value YOU get out of it. A bizzare comment from someone who’s regularly in front of a camera, I suppose, especially with my resolve to only take on paid projects this year… but I always make exceptions for projects that have MERIT. If something moves me and makes me want to move others – rather than just stand there and look pretty – I am 1000x more attached to it than something I need to “sell.” I like truth when it comes down to it, I guess, and I can’t “sell” anything I don’t truthfully believe in and feel.

All that said, things have been picking up well for me with acting work lately. Among other things going on, I’ve been recently booked for two upcoming pilots (one I had to sign a strict NDA for, so no details yet unfortunately), am wrapping up my dice living, and there’s some exciting new projects on the horizon for the next few months. Always moving forward. Also, planning a wedding. We just got our first contributor on our Indiegogo campaign towards stag and doe ticket sales so that’s pretty exciting considering I haven’t booked the venues yet.

Lately, it’s all about quitting and refocusing and shifting things around in my life, but I’m getting there.

I never live by halves.

Wednesday, August 24th, 2011

Sorry for the long, unintended hiatus. August has been a RIDICULOUSLY busy month (in a good way) for me, and September and on is looking to be the same. I’m not complaining, I like living at full speed. Things have been Very Good overall. And yeah, capital letters necessary there. ;)

I started August with a bang, working on the webseries Clutch.

You all should check it out – great cast, great crew, and I love where they are taking the storyline. In terms of empowerment, it’s also a very feminist-positive outlook (despite/to his credit the series having been conceptualized and directed by the talented Jonathan Robbins.) I had a blast and would happily work with anyone from set again.

Next up in my acting adventures: Batman. Yes, that Batman. Travelled all the way to Pittsburgh to be a part of The Dark Knight Rises. I had to sign an NDA, and even though others have not honoured that and have been leaking photos and videos of the scene I was in, I am choosing to respect the integrity of the project. I will say that I had a blast on set, Tom Hardy is a sexy man in person, and I got to keep a nifty Gotham Rogues bandana as a souvenir of my time as a Hot Football Fan.

The week after, I found myself back on set for One Week in Windchocombe. You can take the girl out of the haunted estate, but you can’t take the bucket of kitten eyes out of the girl. (Yay inside jokes!) I am pretty darn impressed with the new stuff we shot – and yes, this includes the bucket of blood that got upended over my head – and once the final bits and bobs are done I am excited to see this project go through post and get finished.

After all that, I was on set a couple days later for Talio, a dustpunk short film set to the music of Abney Park. From what I’ve seen there were some great visuals, and I got to choreograph and perform a fight scene which is always A+ in my books. Still waiting on the full set of photos from that but they’ll be along and up soon enough. There are some stills on the website there, so we all have to be content with them for now. Also, the location we shot at was a lovely Victorian home… the owners are attempting to live a year as Victorians would, largely without electricity or modern conveniences! For those interested, you can read their blog of their adventures here.

Side note: at this point in time, we were not quite halfway through the month. That same weekend, I got the pleasure of attending the wedding of two very dear friends of mine, set at Casa Dea Winery in Prince Edward County. August has been the month of driving long distances for me, to say the least! It was an amazing wedding, though, and I got to see some beloved folks I hadn’t seen for far too long.

Next up, I was in Waterloo again last weekend for a fun short film called “Clit 101″. Lots of sexy-times, and an utterly hilarious yet touching script (ooh, how punny of me) that was originally a monologue piece by a very lovely lady I know. This one was directed by Femme Fatale Creations. It was nice to see some old familiar faces on set (one of the ASSF alumni, actually, as well as local Waterloo artists I know) and fun to meet some new and up-and-coming talent. The wrap party is tomorrow, but we’ll see if I can make it after being on set for Total Recall. Seeing as how I was playing a “kitty lover”, I’m pretty sure I was typecast. ;)

Aside from that, I’ve got a voicework gig booked for later this week, a few more auditions coming up, pre-production fight choreography hopefully gearing up soon for another newish project, and last but not least, I’ll be at Dragon*con this year at the Binary Soul booth. If you’re coming, swing by and say hi. I’ll have BOOB Show swag for sale and am looking forward to the parties and meeting tons of great new folks.

So yeah, that’s where I’ve been this month. Mostly. There’s also someone new in my life and that makes me pretty darn happy. It’s just a matter of finding the time to balance everything out, you know?

Oh, and pee ess: if you do the Twitter thing, follow The BOOB on Twitter. She’s also got a Facebook fanpage going. See you all soon hopefully!

I Have Been Her Kind

Monday, July 25th, 2011

I should be crying, but I just can’t let it show.
I should be hoping, but I can’t stop thinking

Of all the things I should’ve said,
That I never said.
All the things we should’ve done,
That we never did.
All the things I should’ve given,
But I didn’t.

Oh, darling, make it go,
Make it go away.

Give me these moments back.
Give them back to me.
Give me that little kiss.
Give me your hand.

- Kate Bush: This Woman’s Work

I’ve been debating whether or not to publicly put in my two cents about Amy Winehouse’s death. Amanda Palmer’s blog has a brilliant post about it, something I relate quite to and I feel is written beautifully. Also, I applaud Kimya Dawson for being wonderfully raw and real about her own experiences with drugs and darkness.

But my story’s a little different than that. (Or maybe not, but everyone will admit to different things.)

I never knew the woman and didn’t idolize her music nearly as much as other musical influences, but in death Amy’s hit me in unspeakable ways. See, I have been her kind. I’ve never been so far and so badly gone that I’ve overdosed, but I know what it’s like to get lost to the point where you can’t see the people in front of you who care and want you to thrive. Personal hells are just that – personal. You can’t claim to understand thoughts that aren’t yours. Drugs and alcohol and sex are all good distractions from the noise in your head – insecurities and demons and losses – but they only go so far. They don’t erase, only numb, and there’s only so much you can do before the voices break through again.

I believe Amy sang because she wanted to share her message, her feelings, her grief. She sang waiting for someone to say “I understand, I’ve been there too. Now pick yourself up and come along. It’s going to be alright.” And maybe she sang to say the same thing to others.

Making art (whether you’re a singer, writer, filmmaker, actor, whatever) is about life and emotions and relating to other people. It’s about getting your unique message out there, about trying to make sense of what you know and feel and experience. And with that all, you’re offering your experiences to others on a silver platter. You want to be understood, accepted, loved. And all of that can drive you mad.

There are times when I’m afraid to feel, because (like the quote in my last blog post) I know how overwhelming it is. A lot of creative folk are like this, I find. Love wants to burst from your chest and makes you dance in the streets. Misery lurks around corners and attacks out of nowhere, savaging you like a bear. It’s hard to not get caught in that tumultuous undertow, the ebb and flow. Monroe, Cobain, Van Gogh, Ledger, Elliot Smith, a hundred thousand others have been there too and got lost.

No one person’s feelings are any more or less valid, less real, than anyone else’s. But they’re sure as hell going to vary in intensity and focus. Creative people especially are vulnerable to what I think of as neurodiversity or uniquely-brained: many struggle with some or another ‘mental illness’. It’s not something that people can just permanently think themselves out of and move on from, like those who have relatively ‘normal’ brains can. Moods haunt like ghosts.

As an actor, I sometimes wonder if I’m not a part of that group. Why it is so natural for me to suffer tragic deaths over and over in the horror films I’ve been in. Why I am so easily able to become a troubled victim of rape and incest. Why I can kill my own child. Why I can be an otherworldly creature. In these moments, I’m not pretending or denying the feelings that come. I just am. It scares people just how quickly I can cry on camera when needed, and how quickly I can laugh again when the cameras stop. In those moments, I feel it all, and it moves through me. Other times, without that immediate and wonderful creative outlet, it won’t let go.

It’s all or nothing. You either feel everything and take what comes with it, or you try to shut off. And shutting off ruins your art, makes it a hollow shell. I’ve had those bad auditions where I just couldn’t connect to the character and the bad improv sets where I know I’ve just been a talking head. And in those moments, you feel like you’ve failed yourself, and it all starts again.

Amy Winehouse, the girl who felt too much. Rest in peace with all the other creative souls.

Summer = insomnia

Saturday, July 16th, 2011

At the best of times I’m a nightowl. I work best from the hours of about 10 pm to 4 am, which is completely absurd and useless to anything happening in North America. Great for night shoots, mind you; less so for those pesky 6 am call-times that I lovingly gripe about. Hell, I’m just happy to be working.

One thing that I’m sure isn’t helping with the lack of sleep is that today marks a year exactly to the day that my ex, Declan, pinned me to a wall by my throat and made me beg to be let go. For those of you who are at Polaris, yes I suppose that’s a small part of why I am not there (and a part of the reason I am no longer a part of Futurecon), though I really am too busy with professional goings-on to attend the con, which is also refreshing. It means that work has picked up enough over the last year for me to need to make that decision, any PTSD aside… Though I certainly did enjoy running an improv workshop for so many of you last year and will miss those of you who participated and who I met for the first time.
Yes, I suppose I am “still getting over it”, though truthfully I haven’t thought much about it in recent days, and it’ll be yet more emotional fuel I can bring to future roles.
I also know that some people think personal lives and acting careers shouldn’t mix… but the reason I talk about crazy stuff like this is because it does shape who I am, how I am as a person, and it means that should I have any really big scandals happen, I can bury them because I “always talk about my personal life.” (That last part is sarcasm, but to be honest I’d rather be thought of as a real and rounded person with depth who happens to act rather than a cardboard actor that is just a pretty face. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t bring my problems to auditions or set but at the same time I think it’s good to be cognisant of life AND your career, no?)

Anyway. Now that that’s off my chest… Not sure if I blogged about it, but I had a bit of a feature on Being Erica the other month. Can’t go into too many details of the episode, but it was set in the more distant past and I had a scene where I was next or close to Erin (the lovely lady playing Erica) for most of the scene. It’ll be interesting to see how it’s cut together and how much of me that they actually use, but out of all my experiences on bigger sets so far this summer, that’s been my favourite moment and set to date. Hell, they had an espresso bar that day – and that is rare! Craft services really do make the set sometimes. *grin*

I also have a super-exciting project coming up that will have me travelling to the States in August to be a part of something BIG. More details soon, I promise!

The other thing I’ve been grooving on recently are some other actress blogs. They range in information and content – some not even revealing their identity – but here’s what I’ve been enjoying, in no particular order:
- Toronto Actress
- Actress Confessions
- Pam Beesley’s Actor Tips
- Daydreaming Actress

If you have any good actor blogs, please send ‘em my way!

Oh, and I’ve been getting back into my Dice Living…

BOOBs and Fat Unhappy People

Monday, January 24th, 2011

Thoughts on this week’s episode?


In other news, first off I want to share this pretty fantastic blog post I found: from Chris Frampton, on Art and Fear. Ironically, it sums up a lot of my own thoughts as of late.


Tangentally related to that, I took a great workshop yesterday – Brian Levy’s Audition Technique workshop. Actors… take it. While there were some common-sense things presented (like good grooming before going to auditions), I also learned quite a bit that I had not previously known. And it was great to get a chance to see myself do some on-camera work as well. With The BOOB Show, a lot of what I do is fairly pre-planned and I get to use the best takes. Auditions are usually in and out, so actors don’t get that luxury.

It gave me a lot to think about, I will say that. Like why I get so goddamned nervous and start tripping all over myself at the worst possible times. Why I don’t always book the gig after an audition. How I shoot myself in the foot sometimes before even walking in the door. The quest for perfection is frustrating as hell.

I’m also thinking about what sort of art I want to be making, what I want to do with my life, all those good things. Big Damn Scary Thoughts, that.

The Business of Being a Creative Person.

Sunday, December 26th, 2010

Recently, a friend of mine had a bad experience with Geeky Clean, which you can read about in her blog post HERE.

It got me thinking about the dichotomy between business and creativity, and how often I hear people go “but I can’t do X, I’m an actor!” It’s funny, because while I am an actor, I am also a marketer, a copy-writer, an event planner, an accountant, a therapist, a secretary, a web designer, a manager, a peon, a makeup artist, a costumer, a director, a producer, a video editor, a photographer, a graphic designer, a researcher, a personal coach… and this is all just for myself and my business as an actor (and various other projects I take on that relate to my own ‘business’.) You can’t just wear one hat, and if you want to be at all respected and successful, you need to be prepared to work your ass off and be open to learning anything you can that will help you on your path.

As a creative person, it’s not like working at McDonalds or as a CEO or secretary or carpenter or whatever else you may do for a corporation, for an employer, for someone else. You often don’t get the 9 – 5 job (or whatever hours you may work) and the freedom to leave your work at work when you go home at the end of the day. There is a certain comfort in not having to spend time commuting and that you can sometimes even work in your jammies if you like, and that you can work at 3 am if it suits your fancy, but a lot of creative people get so caught up in this – and let’s face it, some of us get lazy – that they miss out on that fact.

When you work for yourself, you are (often) a company of one (sometimes there may be a few of you working together and that’s good too). But that means that jobs that would fall to two or five or ten or twenty people at a company all fall to you. And for some reason, the self-employed – especially the creative, artsy types – often appear to lack the organizational skills to keep a business running. Getting money for doing something you love is great, but whomever the money is coming from is your customer, and there is a certain level of professionalism, protocols, future-thinking, and the like that needs to go into pleasing said customer so that they return and/or that many new customers keep coming along.

Directors, casting directors, producers, etc are all “customers” in a sense, as is anyone that you would produce a good or service for. Part of the key to satisfying most – and I am talking adult, reasonable people – is to always bring your best work and dedication to whatever you take on, and to be able to set reasonable goals and timelines for yourself. If you’ve never flown a plane before, you certainly couldn’t be expected to lead a squadron in a dogfight. Same as if you only have an hour of time free a week, you can’t run a full-time business on that. You have to know what you’re capable of. Yep, some idiots are always going to bitch at you because they are never satisfied, but you have to be able to take a good hard rational look at whether they are being unreasonable because they are expecting something unreasonable, or if they are upset because you promised something that you either could not deliver on and/or that you undervalued and burnt out on somehow. Always know how to value (if not upsell) your work, so that you are thriving and not just getting by. Especially in terms of incoming money, and in terms of not promising more than you have time and resources to be able to do.

Speaking of time, when you work for yourself, you are not likely to just have a part or even full time job. Because you are an army of one, you should expect to have 50, 60, 80 work weeks. You have to do the jobs of multiple people, it only makes sense that to get those jobs done right, you are going to have to find the time to get everything done. Just like working shifts that you may not want to, sometimes you have to turn down fun with friends in order to get a job done. I’ve missed parties and other events for acting gigs – it’s just part of the business. And too many creative people slack off. They fall out of work routines, or don’t even have one at all. They let one night of partying turn into a week, or stay up all night playing WoW, or do a million little self-sabotaging things that eat time away from their business.

I’m not saying “don’t have free time.” What I am saying is that you need to REALISTICALLY budget time each week for what you are capable of accomplishing, while leaving time to tackle things like cooking dinner and doing laundry and having a social life. You also have to be aware and able to either take on or pay others to do things like answering emails, do your accounting, make post office runs, and take on all of the other aspects of your business and personal lives that isn’t your main, enjoyable focus of the work you do. I am lucky in that my friends and partner understand, for the most part, my odd work schedule and my dedication to such; the time I actually spend on set or stage or screen is a small fraction of things I need to do, like inputting shopping receipts, going to the gym, tracking spending, learning lines, writing my own material, attending rehearsals, doing marketing, and a bunch of other non-acting tasks that are still needed to run my business. Like blogging, for example.

Don’t get me wrong, either – I am still working on achieving the balance in all this. This past week, I’ve been getting about two hours’ sleep a night because I have had so much work to get done, and then I crashed last night for about twelve hours because I was so darned exhausted. It’s nothing new. I also know how not-easy it is to run a business successfully, as the success or failure of it is ALL on your head. That, plus all the work that goes into things behind the scenes is pretty sobering and scary. Can you handle it? Only you really know for sure. I and anyone else out there can’t answer for you. Not everyone has the time or the skills or the drive to work full-time plus for themselves… and that’s okay. If you know that’s the case, scale back. Do your business as something part time for fun, and have a real, solid job that pays the bills instead and take a little bit of the worry off your shoulders. But if it’s something you need and bleed and are willing to sacrifice everything for – I do this with my acting, I get it – then do it so that people sing your praises, even if you are only getting a couple hours’ sleep a night and have to find time to schedule according naptimes and nervous breakdowns for yourself.

Oh, and while I’m at it, working on a day most people have off, happy “fat man invaded my home” day! Hope Santa and your families were good to y’all… and if they weren’t, I hope you have enough booze to make it all worth it anyway.

If it’s not worth fighting for, then why do it?

Wednesday, October 27th, 2010

I’m not an angry girl, I’ve just got everyone fooled. – Ani DiFranco

Did you know it was international suit day recently? Enjoy the self-portrait.


I know my last several blog posts were an explosion of drama. And I’m sorry that there seems to be more on its way… but I’ve never been one to keep my mouth shut when there are blatant wrongs that need righting. And so, much like most of my acting career, I fight for what I know to be true, fair, and just. Drama first, get it out of the way, then discuss some of this and its applications to the craft of acting. Promise.

One battle down is that Renaissance Collection Agency in Hamilton has agreed to close my file there, with regard to James Donman/John H. Lennon Music/Music Line International/Head Redme/whatever else he calls himself in his pathetic attempts to scam money from young women who unknowingly audition for him.
Bill Konow of Renaissance Collection Agency assured me via email that I was the only person he was contracted to collect for the above party. I do hope this is the case, and that he has heeded my words about James Donman. In the meantime, I am quite content to continue to support the other amazing women unfortunately victimized by James Donman, and will do everything within my power to ensure that he is brought to sufficient justice for his actions.

Unfortunately, it has been brought to my attention that since my last blog post about it, Frozen North Productions has continued to harass me online, to go so far as to create a Wikipedia account solely to maliciously get my entry there deleted. Misssinformative, whoever you are, I appreciate the work you put in to make an article for me, and I’m sorry that your work has since been ruined by these disrespectful liars.
A source confirmed to me earlier today that Frozen North “started the bullshit on wikipedia because of the facebook stuff” (ie the alleged ‘hacking’ of their Facebook account that they’re erroneously trying to blame on me. I wish I could take credit, I suppose, but I can’t.) So, I have proof – albeit verbal – that they admitted to submitting my article for deletion.

Now, here’s where I come right out and say that I have months of chat logs from Julian’s computer. Given the above evidence, I would have to say it supports statements like:

In case you’re wondering, that’s one snippet from one chat log about me. The full screen capture of that chat is here, should you want to see it. I also made a second screencap of another chatlog, one that links directly to the article about me that got flooded with anonymous trolls. You can see that one here, and the full screencap here. I have more, a lot more, and while I am still not actively looking to sink Frozen North, I believe that they need to stop lying about a lot of things and leave me alone, period. Yes, I did some fantastic promotional stuff for them when things were good. Yes, I was the lone woman in the office and that much easier to outcast/dislike/discriminate against/whatever. If it stayed personal and private, I would not have cared what they thought of me and would not be posting about this now. But guess what – when I’m pushed past a certain point, when others’ inexcusable behaviour is allowed to go on without repercussions, I push back.

“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” – Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948)

I am fighting back now, plain and simply.
And I am well aware that my big mouth and unabashed stances are subject to some scrutiny. That’s fine. I’d be a whole lot happier if we all could get along and if I could spend this time working on scripts/personal projects/at the gym/rehearsing/whatever, but the fact of the matter is that I will not stand for being harassed, defamed, or to see libelous false accusations being posted about work about myself that other people have so graciously contributed. It pisses me off, quite frankly, to see that others’ positive artistic contributions are being so disgraced, never mind the additional impact is has on me. Enough is enough. I’m done with this horse shit.


Now that I’ve probably gotten myself in enough hot water with the above, I have this to say: especially if you’re outside the world of performing, you may not realize just how much work goes into a career in the arts. Right now, I am solely getting by on my acting work, and it’s pretty terrifying at times. Unlike every other industry, there’s a dichotomy: a huge instability in the career itself, not to mention that you pour way more time and trust into strangers than would ever be asked of you elsewhere. I’ve held a gun to a girl’s head that I’ve only known for a couple weeks. Loaded or no, that’s trust. I’ve sometimes gone days or weeks without auditions or gigs or knowing where next month’s rent is coming from. I’ve had to take jobs on the side not related to acting. I’ve spent hours in cold environments, crawled under cars, had spiders on my head, been facing off against onscreen foes with swords that could seriously hurt if we slip up the choreography, and put myself in a billion unfavourable positions, all for the love of the art.

Did you know that most actors make significantly less than $10 000/year at their art? That’s well below the poverty line. Most people are lucky if they make $1000 a year from acting gigs.
But you know what? It’s worth the fight to me. It’s worth the hundreds of auditions for that handful of good roles. It’s worth the instability, the fact that I am pouring probably 60 – 80 hours a week into looking for work and doing auditions and rehearsing and taking on other projects. It’s even worth the attacks from the jealous haters, because that means that I’m going somewhere, that I am apparently such a threat to them that they have to fight to keep me down. Remember the quote, motherfuckers. You fight me, but I win. And I’ve got a whole army behind me of the great, talented, loving, giving people I’ve worked with who I trust and who will back my shit up.

If your passion actually means that much to you, then fight for it. And if you know someone else fighting to establish themselves in the arts, then fight alongside them. They could use the encouragement and support.

And before I forget, get yourselves registered for Futurecon! The registration page is here, and everything you need to know about the event is here. It’s a three day party for NYE, and there’s just four days left before prices go up… don’t miss out on the best party to hit Toronto to ring in 2011!

News, projects, fundraisers, Polaris 24 post-mortem… the usual…

Friday, July 23rd, 2010

Summer seems to be the busiest season for everyone, hands down!

First off, if you take a peek at the website, you’ll notice there’s been a few updates – some new photos are up from The Witching Hour and Stiffs on the Green. There will be some photos from the Constellation Awards going up soon, too! (But have a couple in this post, for now.)
Though it’s still being edited and revised, I’m expecting to have my ebook out by the end of the month. Unfortunately, that’s had to take a back-burner to auditions, photoshoots, and film projects. And sleep, sometimes. Sleep is necessary at times. ;)


Me with Robert J. Sawyer

Not sure if I mentioned this, but I recently signed with a great new agent, JC at Just Canadian Talent. They haven’t quite updated the website yet, but it’s nice to be represented again and to have a second pair of eyes looking for auditions for me. One common misconception it seems a lot of people have is that when you have an agent they find you work – it’s not like that at all! Agents can often help you get more auditions and to be seen by more prominent casting director, but as an actor you should always be working for yourself regardless.

And speaking of work, I have a few exciting new opportunities coming up that I’m pretty stoked for. I’m doing some modeling for Metal Star Fashions – Mila Starr, the designer, is the same brilliant costume designer from Black Eve. I’ve been promised photos soon, so I’ll share them when I have them. And throughout August, I’ll be working with Department 7 Films again, this time on a feature film. I’ll be playing the principal role of Ivette in One Week in Windchocombe, and we are shooting on location in a beautifully derelict old farm. (link) Check this place out, is it not beautifully creepy?

Before you get scared off, I wanted to point you all to some great fundraisers I’ve been helping out with, ran by some awesome people. Please take some time to check these out, and contribute what you can. I think it’s very important to give back to the community and to help out those who need it – as an artist, as an animal lover, as a fellow human being.
First off, my friend (and fabulous Toronto actor) Carlos Diaz donated his birthday to charity and is fundraising for Chile (link), to help them build new homes after the devastating earthquake in Chile.
My best friend Kimi is running a similar idea, to donate money towards helping Bengals in need (link) also in lieu of presents for her birthday. This just makes her that much more awesome!
Another good friend of mine (and fabulous photographer) Tanya is hosting a barbeque fundraiser for North Toronto Cat Rescue (link). Even if you can’t attend, I know she would appreciate any donations you can make!
In other words, I’ve got some great friends doing some great and unselfish things, and I would really appreciate anyone who can helping them along!


Tanya’s beautiful Didi, adopted from NTCR

Lastly, I’ve been asked a whole bunch about Polaris, what happened to the horror makeup workshop I was supposed to do, etc. To blatantly re-use what I sent as post-con commentary: “Aside from a few small snafus, I feel my improv workshop went off very well and was quite pleased to see so many people out and having fun.
I think I had about 20 – 25 participants at peak – some people came and went as there were other panels they had, and not everyone who showed up had tickets, but overall it seemed like everyone was quite enjoying themselves…
Also, I had a great time paneling with Ajay Fry, Violette Malan, Jo Frankel, Cindy Mohareb, and Sheena Callighen. And as mentioned, I’d be happy to offer marketing suggestions for next year.”

The convention itself was pretty fun, and I got to see both a lot of old friends and make some new ones. It’s also a bit of an odd duality, as I was at Polaris to work as a professional actress, even though I am also friends with a fair number of the attendees and spent a lot of time hanging out. Helping out at the Constellations as their trophy girl was a blast, as Gavin Stephens and I spent a lot of time goofing off backstage, and I had a chance to chat and hang out with a lot of great Canadian talent. It didn’t feel like work at all! Also, Kai Owen was gracious enough to buy me a beer on Friday night – and it was pure awesome to see another actor who is very direct and honest. Sometimes I feel like we’re a rare breed – yes, there’s an ‘image’ to maintain a lot of times, but it bothers me when people are insincerely nice or just passive instead of speaking what’s on their mind. I also didn’t get much sleep throughout the weekend, which means everyone who dealt with me is that much more of a saint. ;)


The talented folks at the Constellation Awards!

Yes, my horror makeup workshop did get cancelled due to ‘lack of registration’, which was admittedly disappointing. From what I understand, there were three people registered to do it when they decided to cancel it, and the minimum they have ran workshops with in the past was four (a yoga workshop, last year.) My only real issue was that the workshops weren’t really adequately promoted ahead of time as other aspects of the convention were – even friends of mine who were attending didn’t know I was a workshop guest – and it’s hard for people to express interest in something they don’t even know exists. (If you were one of those registered for the horror makeup workshop and happen to see this, let me know and we’ll see what we can work out – I’m still happy to teach you!)
I see this as a learning experience, ultimately, and I’ve since offered to share my marketing knowledge to make next year more successful… so we’ll see what happens there!

One last PS: The Streets of London is my amazing new improv team, and we do shows at Comedy Bar. Check out the website, and come see us be silly!

Happy Friday!