
Yeah, that would be me. And now, you too.
See, I’ve been doing a whole lot of business and personal development as of late. I (gasp / shock / horror) have taken on work outside of acting – working as a kickass modern Joanie as an office manager for a kickass company. Why? Because, in part, weddings are fucking expensive and I deserve to have the wedding of my dreams. Which, btw, I now have only 363 days to plan. Oh my god you guys!
Obligatory bridezilla gushing aside… no, really. I’ve discovered some awesome resources for acting/life-in-general coaching, and I think you should check these folks out. In no particular order, they are:
-The Lucky Bitch herself – Denise Duffield-Thomas
-Marie Forleo – quirky and passionate career coaching
-Dallas Travers – the actor’s advocate, she’s sincere and spot-on
-The Savvy Actor – marketing tips designed specifically for actors
-Smart Girls Productions – especially US-focused tips for actors
- Gwyn – The Actor’s Market
There’s a few more but these ones really stuck out.
One concept that’s really stuck with me is the idea of an upper limit problem – that is, things have suddenly been so awesome (like way more than ever before) and all of a sudden some really shitty things have started/been happening. You know, things like getting arrested for telling the truth about surviving an abusive ex and domestic violence, and having a bunch of “friends” decide to turn on me and support the abuser. A taxi driver rear-ending me and trying to blame me for it. Or, like what happened yesterday, this web TV show I was supposed to do falling through at the last second because once my first guest and I had arrived to film, the creep-o decided that he was “cancelling our appointment”. Which, btw, he didn’t even have the courage to say to my face. He’s also trying to get out of paying me for the prep work and the shoot date, which I think is bullshit and I won’t stand for. Apparently he has no idea of my lucky streak with winning court cases.
Yes, it’s all kind of shitty, but I’m quite certain that all this is happening because I have gotten a lot more firm about not accepting assholes into my life. That includes asshole cops, asshole men, asshole “friends”, asshole “business associates”, and so forth.
With the creepo from RemicTV, Frank Corbin, I made the mistake of giving him the benefit of the doubt when he “joked” about hiring my services sexually. The fact that he was looking for edgy shows for his web TV station and I had proposed one regarding sex and sexuality does not excuse his behaviour. Hindsight may be 20/20, but I am making everyone aware of his actions and holding him accountable for his inappropriate and unprofessional behaviour, both toward the way he spoke to me and the deciding to cancel the shoot when I was already there.
All that aside. YES, I am always looking for new opportunities and people to work with, and YES I will always 110% be willing to give to anyone who needs my help, but from here on in I am holding EVERYONE accountable for their actions. You tell me you’re doing something, I expect that it will get done. I expect the same thing of myself. If I do work for you, you are sure as fuck paying me for my time and talents in whatever way we agree upon. I am not an actor because I want to work for free for the rest of my life. You wouldn’t work retail or restaurant or pick up garbage for free, why should it be any different in the arts? I give only as good as I get from here on in.
There’s some exciting biz dev news coming up, but I’ll share that when I can. In the meantime, bring it on, universe. I’m just gonna keep smashing through the challenges you send my way and coming out on top.











The Business of Being a Creative Person.
Sunday, December 26th, 2010Recently, a friend of mine had a bad experience with Geeky Clean, which you can read about in her blog post HERE.
It got me thinking about the dichotomy between business and creativity, and how often I hear people go “but I can’t do X, I’m an actor!” It’s funny, because while I am an actor, I am also a marketer, a copy-writer, an event planner, an accountant, a therapist, a secretary, a web designer, a manager, a peon, a makeup artist, a costumer, a director, a producer, a video editor, a photographer, a graphic designer, a researcher, a personal coach… and this is all just for myself and my business as an actor (and various other projects I take on that relate to my own ‘business’.) You can’t just wear one hat, and if you want to be at all respected and successful, you need to be prepared to work your ass off and be open to learning anything you can that will help you on your path.
As a creative person, it’s not like working at McDonalds or as a CEO or secretary or carpenter or whatever else you may do for a corporation, for an employer, for someone else. You often don’t get the 9 – 5 job (or whatever hours you may work) and the freedom to leave your work at work when you go home at the end of the day. There is a certain comfort in not having to spend time commuting and that you can sometimes even work in your jammies if you like, and that you can work at 3 am if it suits your fancy, but a lot of creative people get so caught up in this – and let’s face it, some of us get lazy – that they miss out on that fact.
When you work for yourself, you are (often) a company of one (sometimes there may be a few of you working together and that’s good too). But that means that jobs that would fall to two or five or ten or twenty people at a company all fall to you. And for some reason, the self-employed – especially the creative, artsy types – often appear to lack the organizational skills to keep a business running. Getting money for doing something you love is great, but whomever the money is coming from is your customer, and there is a certain level of professionalism, protocols, future-thinking, and the like that needs to go into pleasing said customer so that they return and/or that many new customers keep coming along.
Directors, casting directors, producers, etc are all “customers” in a sense, as is anyone that you would produce a good or service for. Part of the key to satisfying most – and I am talking adult, reasonable people – is to always bring your best work and dedication to whatever you take on, and to be able to set reasonable goals and timelines for yourself. If you’ve never flown a plane before, you certainly couldn’t be expected to lead a squadron in a dogfight. Same as if you only have an hour of time free a week, you can’t run a full-time business on that. You have to know what you’re capable of. Yep, some idiots are always going to bitch at you because they are never satisfied, but you have to be able to take a good hard rational look at whether they are being unreasonable because they are expecting something unreasonable, or if they are upset because you promised something that you either could not deliver on and/or that you undervalued and burnt out on somehow. Always know how to value (if not upsell) your work, so that you are thriving and not just getting by. Especially in terms of incoming money, and in terms of not promising more than you have time and resources to be able to do.
Speaking of time, when you work for yourself, you are not likely to just have a part or even full time job. Because you are an army of one, you should expect to have 50, 60, 80 work weeks. You have to do the jobs of multiple people, it only makes sense that to get those jobs done right, you are going to have to find the time to get everything done. Just like working shifts that you may not want to, sometimes you have to turn down fun with friends in order to get a job done. I’ve missed parties and other events for acting gigs – it’s just part of the business. And too many creative people slack off. They fall out of work routines, or don’t even have one at all. They let one night of partying turn into a week, or stay up all night playing WoW, or do a million little self-sabotaging things that eat time away from their business.
I’m not saying “don’t have free time.” What I am saying is that you need to REALISTICALLY budget time each week for what you are capable of accomplishing, while leaving time to tackle things like cooking dinner and doing laundry and having a social life. You also have to be aware and able to either take on or pay others to do things like answering emails, do your accounting, make post office runs, and take on all of the other aspects of your business and personal lives that isn’t your main, enjoyable focus of the work you do. I am lucky in that my friends and partner understand, for the most part, my odd work schedule and my dedication to such; the time I actually spend on set or stage or screen is a small fraction of things I need to do, like inputting shopping receipts, going to the gym, tracking spending, learning lines, writing my own material, attending rehearsals, doing marketing, and a bunch of other non-acting tasks that are still needed to run my business. Like blogging, for example.
Don’t get me wrong, either – I am still working on achieving the balance in all this. This past week, I’ve been getting about two hours’ sleep a night because I have had so much work to get done, and then I crashed last night for about twelve hours because I was so darned exhausted. It’s nothing new. I also know how not-easy it is to run a business successfully, as the success or failure of it is ALL on your head. That, plus all the work that goes into things behind the scenes is pretty sobering and scary. Can you handle it? Only you really know for sure. I and anyone else out there can’t answer for you. Not everyone has the time or the skills or the drive to work full-time plus for themselves… and that’s okay. If you know that’s the case, scale back. Do your business as something part time for fun, and have a real, solid job that pays the bills instead and take a little bit of the worry off your shoulders. But if it’s something you need and bleed and are willing to sacrifice everything for – I do this with my acting, I get it – then do it so that people sing your praises, even if you are only getting a couple hours’ sleep a night and have to find time to schedule according naptimes and nervous breakdowns for yourself.
Oh, and while I’m at it, working on a day most people have off, happy “fat man invaded my home” day! Hope Santa and your families were good to y’all… and if they weren’t, I hope you have enough booze to make it all worth it anyway.
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